Fall in Love
Attributed to Fr. Pedro Arrupe, SJ (1907-1991)
Nothing is more practical than
finding God, than
falling in Love
in a quite absolute, final way.
What you are in love with,
what seizes your imagination, will affect everything.
It will decide
what will get you out of bed in the morning,
what you do with your evenings,
how you spend your weekends,
what you read, whom you know,
what breaks your heart,
and what amazes you with joy and gratitude.
Fall in Love, stay in love,
and it will decide everything.
Not to take away from the importance of loving God [first], but I think it’s worth saying that falling in love with another person and staying in love, changes your life dramatically as well.
This lower case “l” falling in love in marriages and long-term relationships decides how you live your life –where you go and how you spend your time. In all its heartaches and joys and unexpected moments, it changes you and how you love the world. Falling in love and staying in love, a life-long endeavor, molds you into a new person.
I guess this is my letter to all those who are not married but who are called nonetheless, who are afraid or think that they do not need this irreversible relationship in their lives.
Falling in love and staying in love is for your good. It is not about being loved, but rather your love for someone else changing you in an absolute and final way.
I don’t think we think about that enough –how will me loving someone else change my heart for the better? — regardless of how the relationship turns out or how this other person receives this love. How will this act of being other-centered and constantly shaping my life around this other person change me?
Don’t be afraid to be changed. Don’t be afraid to fall in love and stay in love.